A very good first person narrative of the child of Holocaust survivors, and the interviews that she conducted with the children of fellow survivors. Epstein not only presents the pressure she grew up under, high expectations from her parents as an example, she discovers that her and her parents' behavior were similar to the that of others in her peer group. Epstein's focus is on Holocaust survivors, but she not ignore the impact of surviving horrors has on others (she uses other genocide survivors and Hiroshima survivors as examples in brief comments). Epstein also takes us on her own journey to Israel as she hopes to find her own identity.

Eventually Epstein does establish her own voice, and the manner that she reaches this selfrealization is a minor surprise. Do not read this book expecting grim or heroic stories about surviving the Holocaust. What you will receive instead is a study in the effects that experience had on on people when they had children, and what they passed down to their children.

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